Comments on: How do I deal with my mom’s constant pressure to eat healthy, improve my health, do exercise, and get married? http://www.weallhatecancer.com/we-all-hate-cancer/how-do-i-deal-with-my-moms-constant-pressure-to-eat-healthy-improve-my-health-do-exercise-and-get-married/ fighting disease and regaining health ! Mon, 28 Nov 2011 18:16:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: myopic_chaos http://www.weallhatecancer.com/we-all-hate-cancer/how-do-i-deal-with-my-moms-constant-pressure-to-eat-healthy-improve-my-health-do-exercise-and-get-married/#comment-25 myopic_chaos Mon, 28 Nov 2011 13:14:58 +0000 http://weallhatecancer.com/we-all-hate-cancer/how-do-i-deal-with-my-moms-constant-pressure-to-eat-healthy-improve-my-health-do-exercise-and-get-married/#comment-25 They see a problem. They don't think you are dealing with the problem- so they are doing what they do because the love you. I am going to guess that if you were a thin track star, but didn't' want to get married, they would bug you less about. They probably can't comprehend that you don't want a mate- and that your weight and health are stopping you from getting one, and if you only got thin, you'd get a mate and be happy. What they DON'T understand is that nagging you is going to make you dig in your heels and do completely opposite to prove you are your own person. This is the normal reaction to someone trying to butt into your life. You feel them trying to take control of you, so you get away. The only way to make sure you are free to make your own choices is to do exactly opposite of what they want... but... that's not really your own choice, is it? it's just he opposite of what they want. You are not free- just in a different type of bondage. You are free to make your own decisions- but they are influencing you in a negative way. It's really hard to know what you want if they don't leave you alone. It's harder to separate your desire for free will, and what you really desire in real life. May I suggest a cooking class? If you can't find diet food that is appetizing, Perhaps you don't have all the resources? I have personally believe that NOTHING is absolute- NOTHING is 100% black or white. It's hard to believe that you have tried every 'diet' food in the world. You probably gave it a good try with what you are familiar with- with what is in your area- so go out side of what you know. YEa- exercise WILL wear you out! When I started running, I ran at the end of the day, because after I exercised- that was it. I couldn't do anything else. I couldn't clean, I couldn't' cook, I could only shower and sit like a large unmoving lump in from of the TV until I could find the energy to crawl into bed. It did take a while- but that went away. Now, I run for 33 minutes 3 times a week. After I run, I can still go out for the evening, in fact, I ran this afternoon for 33 minutes (and over 2 1/2 miles on the treadmill) and I went out to go shopping. I ate something, now I am going out to mow lawn. I was clinically obese (I also have a bad thyroid, that was a factor) but I dropped the weight through exercise, and it's like someone gave me a jet pack for living life. I HATE running- I absolutely despise it- but I found ways to make it palatable so I can continue. The end result is too valuable to me now. Don't let your parents control you by TRYING to control you- make sure you are doing what you want- not trying to prove to yourself they don't' control you by going in the opposite way. They see a problem. They don’t think you are dealing with the problem- so they are doing what they do because the love you.

I am going to guess that if you were a thin track star, but didn’t’ want to get married, they would bug you less about. They probably can’t comprehend that you don’t want a mate- and that your weight and health are stopping you from getting one, and if you only got thin, you’d get a mate and be happy.

What they DON’T understand is that nagging you is going to make you dig in your heels and do completely opposite to prove you are your own person. This is the normal reaction to someone trying to butt into your life.
You feel them trying to take control of you, so you get away. The only way to make sure you are free to make your own choices is to do exactly opposite of what they want… but… that’s not really your own choice, is it? it’s just he opposite of what they want. You are not free- just in a different type of bondage.

You are free to make your own decisions- but they are influencing you in a negative way. It’s really hard to know what you want if they don’t leave you alone.

It’s harder to separate your desire for free will, and what you really desire in real life.

May I suggest a cooking class? If you can’t find diet food that is appetizing, Perhaps you don’t have all the resources?

I have personally believe that NOTHING is absolute- NOTHING is 100% black or white. It’s hard to believe that you have tried every ‘diet’ food in the world. You probably gave it a good try with what you are familiar with- with what is in your area- so go out side of what you know.

YEa- exercise WILL wear you out! When I started running, I ran at the end of the day, because after I exercised- that was it.
I couldn’t do anything else. I couldn’t clean, I couldn’t’ cook, I could only shower and sit like a large unmoving lump in from of the TV until I could find the energy to crawl into bed.

It did take a while- but that went away. Now, I run for 33 minutes 3 times a week. After I run, I can still go out for the evening, in fact, I ran this afternoon for 33 minutes (and over 2 1/2 miles on the treadmill) and I went out to go shopping. I ate something, now I am going out to mow lawn.

I was clinically obese (I also have a bad thyroid, that was a factor) but I dropped the weight through exercise, and it’s like someone gave me a jet pack for living life.

I HATE running- I absolutely despise it- but I found ways to make it palatable so I can continue. The end result is too valuable to me now.

Don’t let your parents control you by TRYING to control you- make sure you are doing what you want- not trying to prove to yourself they don’t’ control you by going in the opposite way.

]]> By: bunny girl http://www.weallhatecancer.com/we-all-hate-cancer/how-do-i-deal-with-my-moms-constant-pressure-to-eat-healthy-improve-my-health-do-exercise-and-get-married/#comment-24 bunny girl Mon, 28 Nov 2011 12:17:02 +0000 http://weallhatecancer.com/we-all-hate-cancer/how-do-i-deal-with-my-moms-constant-pressure-to-eat-healthy-improve-my-health-do-exercise-and-get-married/#comment-24 just ignore her she'll get use to it sooner or later... (p.s. i can relate to the part where you don't want to marry..) just ignore her she’ll get use to it sooner or later…
(p.s. i can relate to the part where you don’t want to marry..)

]]> By: MommyOf2 http://www.weallhatecancer.com/we-all-hate-cancer/how-do-i-deal-with-my-moms-constant-pressure-to-eat-healthy-improve-my-health-do-exercise-and-get-married/#comment-23 MommyOf2 Mon, 28 Nov 2011 12:14:05 +0000 http://weallhatecancer.com/we-all-hate-cancer/how-do-i-deal-with-my-moms-constant-pressure-to-eat-healthy-improve-my-health-do-exercise-and-get-married/#comment-23 My husband's Mom is the exact same with the only difference being, "his wife is not good enough for him" and one of our kids is "overweight" and the other is "too skinny" ( they are not and we don't like her either lol). We moved 700 miles away from her and it is amazing that every time she calls we are in the middle of something or on our way out the door : ) My husband only answers the phone to let her hear his voice. When your parents start with the negative comments start answering their questions with questions. Ex: "Son don't you want to get married? Mom, don't you want to live a happy, joyful life with you son?" It may take a few conversations but eventually they will get the point. I wish you the best of luck! My husband’s Mom is the exact same with the only difference being, “his wife is not good enough for him” and one of our kids is “overweight” and the other is “too skinny” ( they are not and we don’t like her either lol). We moved 700 miles away from her and it is amazing that every time she calls we are in the middle of something or on our way out the door : ) My husband only answers the phone to let her hear his voice. When your parents start with the negative comments start answering their questions with questions. Ex: “Son don’t you want to get married? Mom, don’t you want to live a happy, joyful life with you son?” It may take a few conversations but eventually they will get the point. I wish you the best of luck!

]]> By: Patricia C http://www.weallhatecancer.com/we-all-hate-cancer/how-do-i-deal-with-my-moms-constant-pressure-to-eat-healthy-improve-my-health-do-exercise-and-get-married/#comment-22 Patricia C Mon, 28 Nov 2011 12:05:03 +0000 http://weallhatecancer.com/we-all-hate-cancer/how-do-i-deal-with-my-moms-constant-pressure-to-eat-healthy-improve-my-health-do-exercise-and-get-married/#comment-22 I used to argue with my mother a lot because she constantly found fault with me. Then I found a solution. I agreed with everything she said but did what I wanted to do. I used to argue with my mother a lot because she constantly found fault with me. Then I found a solution. I agreed with everything she said but did what I wanted to do.

]]> By: punkrose http://www.weallhatecancer.com/we-all-hate-cancer/how-do-i-deal-with-my-moms-constant-pressure-to-eat-healthy-improve-my-health-do-exercise-and-get-married/#comment-21 punkrose Mon, 28 Nov 2011 11:47:56 +0000 http://weallhatecancer.com/we-all-hate-cancer/how-do-i-deal-with-my-moms-constant-pressure-to-eat-healthy-improve-my-health-do-exercise-and-get-married/#comment-21 geeze, youre parents want you to do more with your life and they want you to live long.....sheesh be happy your parents love you and want you to stick around.... geeze, youre parents want you to do more with your life and they want you to live long…..sheesh be happy your parents love you and want you to stick around….

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